What do your wants and needs really mean? your wants are your wish list and your preferences. They are like the pedals on a long-stemmed rose. They are pretty, but they can fall off the stem without killing the entire flower. Your needs are like the strong, healthy stem and roots. They are essential to the survival of the rose. They are the foundation of your relationship. And, yes there are thorns in every relationship. They can be painful at times, but they act as self-protective mechanisms. Our thorns come out whenever we feel threatened and defensive. And keep in mind that you can’t force a rose to open before it is ready. If you do, it will die. Your lists are also living organisms. You can edit them and add to them as you see fit. In the coming months and years, you’ll continue to discover characteristics that are important to you in a date or relationship. But you must refer to the lists every time a new man comes into your life. They are your guideline to your dating training program and necessary to keeping your love life on track.